Wednesday, July 21, 2010

5 Myths About Gay People

Dedicated to my homosexual and bisexual friends:


Gay people have been accused of being unfit parents, more likely to be pedophiles, unable to sustain lasting relationships, and worse. But research shows these and other myths just aren't based in fact.


Myth 1: All Animals Are Straight


Despite a popular perception that male-female pairings are the only "natural" way, the animal kingdom is actually full of examples of same-sex couples. Penguins, dolphins, bison, swans, giraffes and chimpanzees are just a few of the many species that sometimes pair up with same-sex partners.

Researchers are still mulling over the evolutionary reason, if any, for gay animal sex, since it doesn't produce offspring. Some ideas are that it helps strengthen social bonds or encourages some individuals to focus their resources on nurturing their nieces and nephews, thus boosting their own genes indirectly.
Or, it may simply be fun. "Not every sexual act has a reproductive function," said Janet Mann, a biologist at Georgetown University.


Male courtships are frequent amongst these long-necked mammals. Often a male will start necking with another before proceeding to mount him. This affectionate play can take up to an hour. According to one study, one in every 20 male giraffes will be found necking with another male at any instant. In many cases, homosexual activity is said to be more common than heterosexual.

Myth 2: Gay Relationships Don't Last

Another stereotype is that gay relationships aren't as real or long-lasting as heterosexual ones.
Research has found that to be untrue. Long-term studies of gay couples indicate that their relationships are just as stable as straight pairings.
"There is considerable evidence that both lesbians and gay men want to be in strong, committed relationships [and] are successful in creating these partnerships, despite difficulties created by social prejudice, stigma, and the lack of legal recognition for same-sex relationships in most parts of the U.S.," said UCLA psychologist Anne Peplau, co-author of a book chapter on the subject published in the 2007 Annual Review of Psychology.
For example, John Gottman, a University of Washington emeritus professor of psychology, and his colleagues collected data from homosexual couples across 12 years, and found that about 20 percent had broken up over that time. That rate projected over a 40-year period is slightly lower than the divorce rate for first marriages among heterosexual couples over the same time span, according to the study published in 2003 in the Journal of Homosexuality.
"The overall implication of this research is that we have to shake off all of the stereotypes of homosexual relationships and have more respect for them as committed relationships," Gottman said.
In fact, the same study found that gay couples tend to be better at resolving conflicts and encouraging positive emotions.

Myth 3: Most Pedophiles Are Gay
An especially pernicious myth is that most adults who sexually abuse children are gay. A number of researchers have looked at this question to determine if homosexuals are more likely to bepedophiles than heterosexuals, and the data indicate that's not the case.
For example, in a 1989 study led by Kurt Freund of the Clarke Institute of Psychiatry in Canada, scientists showed pictures of children to adult gay and straight males, and measured sexual arousal. Homosexual men reacted no more strongly to pictures of male children than heterosexual men reacted to pictures of female children.
A 1994 study, led by Carole Jenny of the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center, surveyed 269 cases of children who were sexually molested by adults. In 82 percent of cases, the alleged offender was a heterosexual partner of a close relative of the child, the researchers reported in the journal Pediatrics. In only two out of 269 cases, the offender was identified as being gay or lesbian.
"The empirical research does not show that gay or bisexual men are any more likely than heterosexual men to molest children," wrote Gregory M. Herek, a professor of psychology at the University of California at Davis, on his Web site. Herek, who was not involved in the 1989 or 1994 studies, compiled a review of research on the topic.

Myth 4: Gay parents aren't as Good as a Father and a Mother
Many of those who oppose gay marriage and gay adoption charge that same-sex parents aren't good for kids, and that a child needs both a father and a mother to grow up to be a healthy adult. Research, however, shows that children of gay parents tend to fare just fine.
For example, one recent study looked at nearly 90 teens, half living with female same-sex couples and the others with heterosexual couples, showing that both groups fared similarly in school. Teen boys in same-sex households had grade point averages of about 2.9, compared with 2.65 for their counterparts in heterosexual homes. Teen girls showed similar results, with a 2.8 for same-sex households and 2.9 for girls in heterosexual families.
Another study found that kids with two moms or two dads were no more likely than their counterparts in "traditional" homes to engage in delinquent activities, such as damaging others' property, shoplifting and getting into fights.
"The bottom line is that the science shows that children raised by two same-gender parents do as well on average as children raised by two different-gender parents," said Timothy Biblarz, a sociologist at the University of Southern California. "This is obviously inconsistent with the widespread claim that children must be raised by a mother and a father to do well."
Both studies were described in a literature review paper published in February 2010 in the Journal of Marriage and Family.

Myth 5: Being Gay is a Choice
While some claim that being gay is a choice, or that homosexuality can be cured, evidence is mounting that same-sex attraction is at least partly genetic and biologically based.
To test whether genes play a role, researchers have compared identical twins (in which all genes are shared) to fraternal twins (in which about 50 percent of genes are shared). A 2001 review of such twin studies reported that almost all found identical twins were significantly more likely to share a sexual orientation - that is, to be either both gay, or both straight - than fraternal twins, who are less genetically close. Such findings indicate that genes do factor into a person's orientation.
Other studies have found that biological effects, such as hormone exposure in the womb, can also play a role in shaping sexual orientation. And findings of physiological differences, such as different inner ear shapes between homosexual and heterosexual women, contribute to this idea.
"The results support the theory that differences in the central nervous system exist between homosexual and heterosexual individuals and that the differences are possibly related to early factors in brain development," said Sandra Witelson of McMaster University in Ontario, an author on the 1998 inner ear finding published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.




Adapted from: http://www.livescience.com

Movie Review 1 (for this blog)

1) Date Night
Genre: Comedy
Movie-in-a-sentence: A married couple seeking to spice up their regular "date night", got more than they bargained for.
Comments: Not the best of Steve Carell, or perhaps we've seen too much of him..and just like Jim Carrey it gets old after awhile. The humour is little forced and retarded to be honest. The funniest part is actually the outtakes, which I've included here. Enjoy!



2) Analyze That

Genre: Comedy
Movie-in-a-sentence: A former mafia boss is released into the custody of his psychiatrist.
Comments: Funnier than Date Night. But not quite there. And the acting is superb. But then again, with old stars like Billy Crystal and Robert De Niro, we would expect nothing less.

Coming up: Did you hear about the Morgans?
Must watch list: Inception, Step Up 3D, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hollows 3D.

and no.. I have not watched Twilight: Eclipse.

Thursday, July 15, 2010

My first ever emo song...

I used to listen to this when I was young.. like primary school or something.. It made me sit quietly and think and feel (people don't use the word emo yet back then). Found it in youtube and gosh it brings back such memories! 



Joseph 



Close every door to me,

Hide all the world from me

Bar all the windows

And shut out the light

Do what you want with me,

Hate me and laugh at me

Darken my daytime

And toture my night

If my life were important I

Would ask will I live or die

But I know the answers lie

Far from this world 

Close every door to me,

Keep those I love from me

Children of Israel

Are never alone

For I know I shall find

My own peace of mind

For I have been promised

A land of my own 



Children 



Close every door to me,

Hide all the world from me

Bar all the windows

And shut out the light 

Joseph 



Just give me a number

Instead of my name

Forget all about me

And let me decay

I do not matter,

I'm only one person

Destroy me completely

Then throw me away 

If my life were important I

Would ask will I live or die

But I know the answers lie

Far from this world 



Joseph, Ensemble & Children 



Close every door to me,

Keep those I love from me

Children of Israel

Are never alone

For we know we shall find

Our own peace of mind 

For we have been promised

A land of our own


Monday, July 5, 2010

Hiatus

Swimming in an ocean
polluted
denatured

Pausing for a split second
a breather
a teaser

Suddenly the lack of tension
what relief!
what ease!

Longing for intermission
lingering
dawdling

But the currents are too strong
unstoppable
inevitable

Life's like that
stopped swimming for a moment too long
lose courage and you'll drown.
~YY

I started out meaning to write about the long hiatus i took from blogging, why i did it and what happened since then. But somehow it morphed into something else hehe. In my opinion, a hiatus is not necessarily a bad thing. It isn't just laziness or lack of interest. Sometimes, we rest so that we can walk a longer journey. Or in this case, explore different paths. Anyway, I'm back. Hopefully, I can stay. :)

Sunday, March 14, 2010

Business Opportunities in Kampar

The following are business opportunities in Kampar, Perak.
  • McDonalds
  • Starbucks
  • Pharmacy
  • Cinema
  • Night Club
  • Dance Classes
  • Music Classes/Shop
  • Kamparians! Anything to add?

These businesses are guaranteed to be successful! (quality of service and affordability matters too, of course). Why? because...
  1. We don't have it here.
  2. We travel all the way to Ipoh for these.
  3. We have a student population of >12000.
  4. Need I say more?
So if you are interested to start such businesses...please come to Kampar!

Random

People walk, people stare;
i can't bear, to even talk.
So what?
Mock!
If you dare.
You know what?
I don't care.

Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Web Finds

I found this awesome website yesterday that totally expressed my mood~

Basically, Musicovery is a interactive web radio that allows you to find and play music based on your mood. The best thing about it is, you don't even need to register for the free account to use it's basic functions.

On a separate note, this is a very interesting animation of a drawing aptly titled "A Woman Inside Out".